I know the weekend is a great time to sit on your couch and eat ice cream. You don't have to tell me, honey! But, in an effort to make 2012 better for yourself and possibly impact someone or something around you in a good way, you (and I) have to put the ice cream shovel down and peel ourselves out of the cracks of our couch. Remember? Read last week's Sassy Suggestion here.
Sassy Suggestion Week Deux
1. Forgive. We all hold on to negative feelings more than we should. A lot of times, we don't even know that we are harbouring these feelings until many years after they have dragged us down silently. Sometimes, we may never realize how being angry at someone or something wears on us. I know it takes a big person to forgive or let go of painful feelings/experiences. Honestly, I think its something that many people are not willing to do, so they let it harden them or keep them from people or things they once loved. You can choose to vocalize forgiveness whether to yourself or someone else or silently forgive inside your heart. Either way, you will shed something that is holding you back and causing negativity in your life and who wouldn't want to do that?!? I believe that sometimes there will be no resolution. No explanation. No justification. No apology. And our only choice is to let it go and stop carrying whatever it is on our shoulders. There comes a time when it just doesn't matter anymore. That doesn't make us weak, it just makes us capable of moving on and looking forward.
If you can't forgive someone else, then find something to forgive yourself for. If you are like me, you have a thousand things that you are angry that you did, didn't do, didn't do correctly, or just totally messed up. It's ok and it doesn't matter anymore. The fact that I literally ate two rows of oreos three days ago before my husband even got home from work is completely irrelevant today. And, so is the fact that I failed my first semester of college. Whoops.
"You can sit there forever, lamenting about how bad you've been, feeling guilty until you die, and not one tiny slice of that guilt will do anything to change the past." -Dr. W. Dyer
2. When you are out and about this weekend, give someone that you don't know a compliment. Compliments to strangers are hard to give because we just don't tend to want to put ourselves out there like that, but even I, in my antisocial mind, have done this before and it inevitably makes you feel good for choosing being kind over just ignoring someone. Now, if you're a man and thinking of giving some random woman a compliment, let me just stop you right there because that may be weird. No, no, it will definitely be weird. Choose your compliment wisely...or better yet, just tell that guy you parked next to "Nice truck." That will surely make his day. I mean, unless its a crappy truck then of course don't say that! Ugh. You get the point. People have all sorts of things going on and sometimes one little thing can make their day better. You never know how you can impact someone.
"Spontaneously engage in acts of benevolence and generosity."- Leon Nacson
"Spontaneously engage in acts of benevolence and generosity."- Leon Nacson
Are you talking to me?????????? Guilty as charged.
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